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How to ask a neighbour to turn the music down in English

It can feel awkward to complain when your neighbour is having friends over. Here are natural phrases to explain the problem and make a polite but clear request.

Outside your neighbour's flat
Ethan · your next-door neighbour“Hey! You're from next door, right? What's up?”

The situation

What happened

  1. Your neighbour has friends over, and their music is coming through your shared wall.
  2. You start a hospital shift at 6:30 tomorrow morning, so you need to sleep soon.

Your goal

Get your neighbour to turn the music down by 11 pm.

What to say

8 lines, in the order you'd need them

  1. 1 · Open

    A friendly way to start an awkward conversation

    “Hi, sorry to bother you this late.”

  2. 2 · Explain

    Focuses on the sound rather than blaming anyone

    “I'm next door, and the music's coming through the wall quite loudly.”

    Gives a clear reason for your request

    “I've got a hospital shift at half six, so I need to get some sleep soon.”

  3. 3 · Ask

    Polite and natural without sounding too formal

    “Would you mind turning it down a bit, please?”

    “Keep it down” is the everyday way to say it

    “Could you keep it down after eleven?”

  4. 4 · Push back

    Firm without becoming unfriendly

    “I understand, but it's still loud enough to keep me awake.”

  5. 5 · Meet halfway

    Offers a practical compromise

    “If the music's staying on, could you turn the bass down at least?”

  6. 6 · Wrap up

    Ends warmly while keeping the request clear

    “Thanks, I'd really appreciate it.”

Say it like a local

Drop the stiff version

Learners sayYour music is very noisy. Please reduce the volume.

Locals sayThe music's coming through the wall. Could you turn it down a bit?

It describes the problem gently and uses a natural spoken request.

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Ethan · your next-door neighbouris waiting for you

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