Confusing words · Look and sound alike

Empathy vs sympathy

Both are kind, but they are not the same. One stands beside you. The other stands in your shoes.

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Quick answer

Sympathy is feeling sorry for someone. Empathy is understanding how they feel by imagining their experience.

Left: a man stands beside a sad friend on a bench (sympathy). Right: he crouches to try on her shoes (empathy).

sympathy

noun

feeling sorry for someone who has a problem

Sympathy stands beside you and says “I'm so sorry.”

empathy

noun

understanding how someone feels by imagining their experience

Empathy stands in your shoes and tries to feel how it is.

The difference at a glance

WordTypeMeansExampleCommon mistake
sympathynounfeeling sorry for someone who has a problemI sent her a card to show my sympathy.I sympathy with you. → I sympathise with you.
empathynoununderstanding how someone feels by imagining their experienceA good nurse shows empathy as well as skill.I can empathy with her. → I can empathise with her.

See each one in a sentence

noun

sympathy

Examples

I sent her a card to show my sympathy.

He got no sympathy from his boss.

Common mistake

Not: I sympathy with you.

Say: I sympathise with you.

Sympathy is a noun. The verb is sympathise (UK) or sympathize (US).

noun

empathy

Examples

A good nurse shows empathy as well as skill.

Her empathy helped her see why he was upset.

Common mistake

Not: I can empathy with her.

Say: I can empathise with her.

Empathy is a noun. The verb is empathise (UK) or empathize (US).

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